Cheryl Cole to meet husband

Broken-hearted Cheryl has reportedly agreed to meet with estranged husband Ashley Cole to discuss the future of their marriage. It is believed Cheryl, 26, intends to see 29-year-old Ashley next week to talk through their problems. However, the Girls Aloud star's closest friends are worried the sportsman will convince her to give him another chance, despite his infidelities. The source added to the Daily Mirror newspaper:' Her friends are worried he could still win her back. Even though she's furious about the way he's behaved, no one's convinced her she's totally over him. She's hurt and confused.'

As we know, people in the west are more open towards their interpersonal relationships than we are; it is easier for them to form a relationship than to maintain it for a long period of time. Famous artists and sportsman are just amongst many of those whose marriage is not for lifetime. I strongly feel that relationship formation is not that difficult for many, the key factor in determining whether or not a relationship can last long is how the two parties make efforts in the process of maintenance. Conflicts are unavoidable in any relationship; what is more, some degree of conflicts is generally considered healthy for a relationship.

In Knapp's Model of Relational Development, after initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating and bonding, the relationship then comes to the stages of coming apart. Having been engaged in marriage, Ashley didn't work hard on their marriage; instead, his behavior is really hurting and is harmful on the relationship. This can be traced back solely to his personality, or it can be the result of their differentiating after their bonding. Differentiating can benefit, even strengthen a relationship; differentiation can be a harbinger of relational decay and eventually dissolution. In this individual case, differentiation is obviously placing negative influence on the relationship. The most delighting thing in this relationship is that the girl is willing to give her husband a second chance and ignore his flaw history. This is really a brave move. As an old saying goes:" old habits die hard." Personally, I really find it hard to trust a man like this a second time. While maybe she just enjoys his company and loves him so much that cannot let go of him. Anyway, they should give it a try before blindly terminate the relationship.

Although appearance attractiveness has a big impact in the early stages of a relationship, it cannot be the only reason for any marriage. To develop a healthy and long-lasting relationship, they must have many other things in common to share with, to appreciate, and to love more of each other.

Talks between powers

Relationships between world powers are changing all the time-that could be due to their pursuit of self-interest, profit maximization, and disagreement on some political policies. This brings up the necessity of strategic talks between powers for both parties to negotiate.

Recently, the talks between Chinese officials and representatives of Dalai Lama were arranged. Few expect the talks make much progress, nor tensions in Tibet to subside.

For such sensitive issue which will affect a country's national integrity, spokesmen of both sides must choose their words cautiously and intentionally. The language we use always expresses our ideas or opinions; as for relationships between countries, what kind of words are used as well as how the spokesmen deliver the messages, all represent their own stance. International relationship, as well as that of different parties within one country, is really a sensitive issue that if miscommunication occurs, it could trigger cold wars, trade barriers and whatsoever unfavored things to happen. In the case of China and Tibet(of course I'm not saying Tibet is independent from China), both parties expect to realize their own interest during talks, in another word, language reflect its users. So for the effective talks between the two parties, some critical principle are extensionally-centred strategy, direct and specific use of language, flexible in language use, as well as engaging in perceptive checking.

Obama meeting Dalai Lama just makes this issue much more complicated. China government strongly oppose U.S president's meeting with the head of Tibet area. Such "internal affair" should be settled by the internal powers, so the third party's intervention will make the issue harder to handle, and probably at the risk of a coming up rigid relationship between U.S and China. As China and U.S are two of the most influential powers in the world, any miscommunication will be detrimental to both political and economic aspects.

The issue of Tibet has been argued since long time ago, but little progress has seen. Anyway, just wish that peace will finally achieved in the west part of China!!